Understanding the Style & Philosophy of Your Wedding Officiant

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As an engaged couple, you will spend much time and money preparing for your wedding day. Often, overlooking the importance of choosing the right minister/officiant can jeopardize all of your efforts and financial investment. Because the officiant plays a crucial role in creating the tone and atmosphere for your wedding ceremony that carries over into the rest of the celebration, you need to choose an officiant who has the professionalism, experience, and personality to fulfill this responsibility.

When selecting your officiant, ask about his or her style and philosophy in performing a wedding ceremony. If you get a “blank stare” or a response such as “whatever you need me to be,” then that officiant does not already have his or her own style or philosophy.  Does this mean only one ceremonial philosophy is correct?  Absolutely not. But the officiant’s persona can be a style that is certainly not a good fit for you as a couple.

Celebratory Style & Philosophy

My style and philosophy has developed over 35 years of officiating weddings. I approach every wedding ceremony as a celebration, not a show or a production.  The ceremony is a celebration for the couple and their invited guests. Family and friends will witness the two exchange vows and participate in the festivity as they celebrate with the couple.

Focus: The Couple & Their Wishes

As the officiant, my role is to draw all the attention to the couple, not me. The ceremony is not a time for a sermon, personal reflections, or sharing more than what the couple desires for their ceremony.

Spirit: Friendly & Contagious

During the ceremony I want my spirit and attitude to become contagious to the couple, the wedding party, and the guests. I want to communicate and share with the couple, not preach or lecture them.  My message will always be about them and not a three-point sermon drawing the attention towards me.  My delivery is one in which guests assume I have known the couple for years.

Goal: Comfortable & Memorable

A wedding ceremony is not a time for a stand-up comedy routine, but if I sense the bride and groom getting nervous, I will offer a well-timed humorous comment that will cause them to laugh or giggle and relax. My role is to make sure this couple truly enjoys every minute of their ceremony so that the celebration is a memorable experience, not a stressful one.

While my style and philosophy may not be a match for every couple, those looking for officiant like me know clearly what they are getting and will not be surprised on their wedding day. I tell couples all the time that if you are looking for an unsmiling, serious black-robed officiant, you need to keep looking because that is not my personality or my style.

What Separates MWC from the Rest?

At Memorable Wedding Celebrations, we listen and assist you in designing your own ceremony that reflects your personalities and what you desire to share with one another. We provide professionalism along with a “feel good” memorable experience for each couple. We provide an enjoyable, relaxing, stress-free ceremony, whether it’s just the two of you or two hundred family and friends. We are experienced, upbeat, calming, and celebrative. In addition, we offer the following ceremonies: religious. semi-religious, contemporary, blended families, elopement, vow renewal.

Memorable Wedding Celebrations would treasure the chance to discuss how we can make your ceremony meaningful, enjoyable, and memorable. Please contact us at http://dfwweddingministerandofficiant.com/ for more information.

Finding an Officiant Early: A Crucial Choice for Couples

As much as a year of planning can go in to preparing a wedding. Adding to the investment of time, the average couple in Texas spends upwards of $10,000 to host their special day. Despite all this effort and expense, too often brides and grooms fail to see the importance of choosing the right minister or officiant early in the process.

How early is early?

Couples should make choosing an officiant one of their first decisions—up to one year in advance of their wedding date. The officiant plays a crucial role in setting the tone and creating the atmosphere the couple desires for their wedding. Selecting someone who has the professionalism and personality to fulfill this responsibility should be of highest priority. Bringing in an expert for guidance and direction at the onset of the process will eliminate unnecessary anxiety–not only during the planning phases, but also as the entire celebration unfolds.

What assistance will the officiant offer?

Ceremony planning
Officiants should listen to the couple’s desires and assist them in designing a ceremony that reflects their unique personalities and what the bride and groom desire to share with one another. Professionals can guide couples in planning ceremonies that range from religious to semi-religious to contemporary. For blended family situations, they can counsel the couple in how to acknowledge and celebrate their past as they merge their futures. Professional officiants can advise the couple who prefer a small, private ceremony or plan to host hundreds family and friends. They can walk a couple through a civil ceremony or a vow renewal. And for couples who are unsure of what they want, the experienced officiant understands the questions to ask to help the couple determine what type of service is perfect for them.

Ceremony direction
The officiant is there to provide an enjoyable, relaxing, stress-free ceremony. Selecting an expert ensures that nothing is overlooked and that every piece of the wedding ceremony—from preparing the wedding party to the dismissal of the guests—unfolds smoothly. Given these responsibilities, determining who will be the officiant is too vital to be left to a last-minute decision.

How does Memorable Wedding Ceremonies provide these services?

MWC delivers professionalism during the planning and throughout the ceremony while also providing a “feel good,” memorable experience for each couple. Having 30 years of experience, we provide upbeat, calming, and celebrative assistance. MWC would be honored to be considered for your wedding celebration.

Contact us at http://dfwweddingministerandofficiant.com to discuss how we can make your ceremony meaningful, enjoyable, and memorable.

April Weddings

I was so blessed in April to have numerous weddings across the Metroplex with great weather for almost everyone of our outdoor weddings.  Most of all had the joy of getting to know some wonderful couples, families, and friends.  Got to work with my crazy DJ buddy Marc Poster for a few weddings and Marc always makes it so enjoyable and relaxing for me.  Got to be at the awesome Piazza in Colleyville, beautiful Marty Leonard Chapel in Fort Worth and the Botanical gardens, wonderful Myers Park in McKinney, Fossil Creek Golf Club, and my first time at Ferris Plaza, the park by Union Station in downtown Dallas.  Working now with Judy Benyshek as a wedding day coordinator for our couples and she did an awesome job at Ferris Park.  Unique challenges and she jumped over them with no sweat.  Couples really need to consider using her for take the stress away for their wedding day.  Thanks to all of the couples for making April weddings a memorable experience for me and look out May here we come.

First Post

Well here I go with my first blog post.  Certainly enjoying some great Spring weddings with some awesome couples.  Some beautiful weddings outside at A&M gardens in Azle, Myers Park in McKinney, and the Filter Bldg on White Rock lake.  Plus some wonderful celebrations indoors at the beautiful Pizza in the Village in Colleyville.  It is an extreme blessing to have the opportunity to get to meet and know new couples who become friends and then get the opportunity to join them together as husband and wife.  If you know of a couple needing a minister or officiant to perform their wedding ceremony please send them my way.  I am also excited about having a new wedding day coordinator join me.  Judy Cooper can truly help you enjoy your wedding day by removing all the stress concerning vendors, last minute issues, and wedding day logistics.

On another note I have been blessed to find a guy who has really helped me with our website and other issues.  He has shown extreme patience in dealing with me who knows nothing about website design.  If you need a website designer or other website needs I highly recommend that you contact Jeff Glassnor.  Shoot me an email and I will forward you his contact information.  Thanks, david